My Boss

 

In my first post in the blog, I had mentioned how I am an introvert and asocial person. What I did not mention there is that I do have long sarcastic tongue which when decides to vent out the anger, spares none. My family labelled me an ‘ill- tempered’ child when I was small. The thing is that I have zero tolerance for stupidity.  And I do not believe in worshipping the path my elders or people with authority walked. I require logic and reason to follow something. There was a time when I believed that speaking whatever you feel is good. This attitude built my image as a stubborn, arrogant, impatient child and this continued even when I grew up.

Then, at my second job, I met a wonderful person- my TL. He was a young, energetic person with a wisdom beyond his age. When he observed how things irritate me, how quickly my mood sours, how I do not believe in keeping my mouth shut when angered, he took it up on himself to bring about a change in me. Thankfully, he never lectured me. He became a friend first. He was, kind of, my boss. I expected him to be bossy, ordering everyone around, dictating everything that the team should or shouldn’t do. His friendly demeanor took me by surprise. He would come to the cafeteria, sit at our table and ask us about our day so far, tell us about his day and we discussed almost everything under the sun. Occasionally he would say something like, “You know what I have learnt so far? That life has lot of imperfections and that is what makes it beautiful. I cannot keep losing my cool over it.” Or, “What kind of world it would become if everyone actually starts saying what they really feel? What kind of ugly scenes we would witness? That brain to mouth filter is a must.”

He was a friendly, approachable person. I am sure he used to make an effort to sit with his team during the break or R & R time but it always seemed so natural, so effortless. Like he is one of us. We could say anything to him, about him, about anything without feeling judged. So, his two-line sermons were actually taken seriously, even by me. Three months after I joined his team, my TL laughed at me saying, “Your claws are not sharp anymore.” I couldn’t get it and asked what he meant. “Just that I have been keeping a track and you have not gotten irritated in a week now”, he said with glee on his face. “Well, my claws are still quite sharp but I keep them sheathed, why to unsheathe them for trivial matters where an eye roll is enough?”, I replied. And I still remember the way he laughed.

Fortunately, keeping my angst in check was not the only thing I learnt from him. I also learnt what leadership is like. His biggest win was that he never had an air of superiority about his knowledge or seniority or being our immediate boss. Another thing was his exceptional process knowledge. He could and always would help us out when we were stuck, without ever making us feel like dimwits. And he made sure our team was the first one to get the new supplies on floor, get all our breaks on time no matter how much the work load. We won the best team award four months in a row not because any of us were exceptional, but because our TL was and none of us wanted to disappoint him. He was liberal in showering credit and shielded us from blames, though we got good dressing down during team meets, if needed.

Life has, since, taken me to different places and my experiences only solidified what I learnt from my TL. My image, in my family, is still that of an immature, impatient, impulsive person who has no control over her temper. Impressions, once formed, are hard to change; so hard that sometimes it takes a lifetime of effort. I’m ok with it, I know what I am and that is what is important. I do not react to the stupidity around me, at least in professional space but it does disturb me and when I look for inspiration and a happy place, I find it in the happy memories I have of this wonderful place and person.

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